“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” - Haruki Murakami
I’ll be posting a few things about grief coming up.
Change (whether good or bad); loss of friendships, family members, loves, pets; even lost opportunities change us. It’s important to recognize that this is the case, and that there’s not really a way to know who you’ll be in the process or when you emerge from it.
What you can do, though, to help yourself (or someone else) is to take good care in the midst. Be gentle with yourself. Find support in people: teachers, friends, family, counselor/therapist, priest/pastor/rabbi/imam; in activities: think about starting something simple and new as the old stuff that might have been of interest may no longer be; in music or movement; in just letting yourself be with whatever feeling arises.
And don’t forget to breathe.
(And, if you’re struggling and feel like you don’t have anyone you can talk to, check out my Help Me Now! page and call a hotline. Go ahead. No one’s judging you. There are some good listeners out there and they want to offer you support. No shame. Just the ear of a good-hearted, trained individual.)